Itâ€™s probably not exactly what 33 year oldÂ Sung Si KyungÂ wants to hear. After all, the guy still wants very much to date and fall in love. But these days, heâ€™s been told he gives off more of a â€˜daddyâ€™ feel, rather than someone who can potentially become a boyfriend. But the singer thinks perhaps itâ€™s because heâ€™s had some nephews born in the recent years.
Although prior to his interview he asked not to be inquired about his love, he naturally spoke out about his thoughts on dating and marriage. â€œThereâ€™s a book I read about people that go from their twenties to their early thirties. A lot of women apparently have an identity crisis once they reach that age. After raising a kid or two they think, â€˜I had so many dreams when I was youngerâ€¦â€™. I too have an older sister, and I very much looked up to her. She was a respectable woman. But after getting married and raising my nephews, thatâ€™s all she was. A mom of two kids. To be honest, I didnâ€™t like that. She had so much potential, and it broke my heart. It was to the point where I said, â€˜If this is whatâ€™s going to happen to the woman I love, then maybe I shouldnâ€™t have kidsâ€™.â€
He goes on to say that inAmerica, itâ€™s very natural for kids to grow up and become independent once they reach a mature age. But inKorea, once a couple gets married and raising a family, he feels all the love and attention gets geared towards the kids. And for those who werenâ€™t necessarily ready for a family may become burdened by the responsibility and because of the lack of love in the marriage, they start looking for it elsewhere. This is the reason why so many families are broken up.
â€œI guess this is why people think Iâ€™m already a baby daddy, because I already have these concerns,â€ he expressed.Â â€Before I didnâ€™t really like kids and preferred dogs, but Iâ€™ve changed. Anyway, I think that unless the guy in a marriage is halfway decent and unless two people are completely ready to have kids, well, you shouldnâ€™t. And they should prepare themselves to have kids. Educate yourselves; read a book. There are so many parents who simply donâ€™t know how to raise children.â€
When asked if he had these thoughts because he was ready or wanting to getting married, he denied it. â€œI donâ€™t want to get married, I just want to date. Even in my early twenties, when I found someone I liked, I considered marrying her. But when I got into arguments with girlfriends and she would throw a curse word my way, I would tell myself that I couldnâ€™t marry someone like her. A woman who will be my wife and a mother to my kids should be able to have that much respect for me.â€
When asked about what kind of qualities he looked for in a potential wife, he answered, â€œA girl that has self-control, especially when she drinks. I donâ€™t care about her past, as long as she was genuinely in love with those people. Itâ€™s okay if she smokes, as long as she quits before our children are born. But importantly, I need someone who shows respect to her elders, someone who is confident and loves herself. If she lacks these three qualities, I donâ€™t know if she could be an open and honest wife. Regardless of whether or not I love her, I donâ€™t think I could continue a relationship with that kind of person. I donâ€™t care about her familyâ€™s economic status, as long as her parents are good people.â€